My past childcare experiences came from a wide spectrum. I've done in-home childcare & that of others. I've had children that were quiet as a mouse & those that were, well not so much. I've found children, as adults, are each very unique and must be handled in such a manner. Just because the little one is ok to sit in the corner & observe does not make it ok for me to ignore him or her. They all need attention. And yes there are times when they want too much attention, so do we then spank, yell or send them to their rooms? Having been brought up on spanking & yelling, I do not believe in it. Yelling gets old & tuned out real quick as does "go to your room" unless it's a necessity so the adult in the room has a chance to cool down and "think" of a more suitable punishment such as a good tickle or a run around the outside of the house weather permitting. Its about thinking outside the box. Looking for treasures in the back yard or watching snowflakes fall or trying to see how many we can catch on our mittens. Thinking of fun things to do..putting the little ones by the kitchen table with a pile of shaving cream & let them go at it..of course it requires baths after but a little water never hurt anyone. Showing them how to make a dinosaur with clay made out of flour, salt, & food coloring or cookie dough works great too but I like to hold back a bit on the sugar. We would have a picnic in the living room on a sheet then take a nap in a tent made from chairs & blankets thrown over. We would have beach parties in the middle of winter or snow frolics in the middle of summer using the white packing peanuts. There's a secret to get them to pack well enough to make a snowman but you have to be under 45" in order to get the secret. Children do need to be taught to be polite, courteous & respect others & their things. I grew up the third oldest of 12 children. When I left home at the age of 18 my youngest sibling was 4. My husband & I had 4, 2 girls & 2 boys, which we raised as we were, spare the rod, etc. which I now see wasn't the way. But we see our children raising their's by less spanking & more yelling, not talking, which we can see isn't the way either. My youngest siblings that were never treated as I was, treat their children totally different and funny enough, their children are acting totally different too. This isn't to say our's turned ok. 3 of the 4 went into the military, 1 son (SSgt) as a crew chief on B2 USAF, 1 son (SSgt) crew chief on F18 USMC, & 1 daughter (Sgt) Flute US Marine Band. Our other daughter teaches music to K-6 in Houston, TX. So we are very proud. We taught them and they in turn as so many of the little ones that I took care of, taught me. Little ones learn to sign long before they are able to talk. This is going a bit outside of childcare but I've raised puppies, dozens of baby birds from only days old, kittens being only a couple of weeks and they all taught me the same thing; you receive back what you give. If we don't care for them now, what can we expect from our future generations.