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Nanny Share Rules to Keep Both Families Informed

How to keep two families on the same page when managing one nanny

The key to a successful nanny share is to make sure you’re on the same page -- about everything from payment to group texts to social media.

Here are some categories you’ll want to go over, and consider including in your nanny share contract.


Job Description

  • What are your expectations of the nanny?

  • What type of house work will you want the nanny to do (tidying, laundry, etc.)?


Payment and Extras

  • What is the hourly rate?

  • How much should the nanny expect to take home weekly (even if one of you doesn’t need them for a day)?

  • Will you be paying through a nanny tax service?

  • How will you be covering overtime?

  • How will you be determining the holiday bonus?

  • Does the nanny get a weekly spending allowance for snacks and activities?


Schedule

  • What is the overall schedule?

  • How do you want to handle one family needing to work late/go in early?

  • How do you want to organize and keep track of the nanny’s schedule?


Paid Time Off

  • How many paid vacation days and sick days will you be providing?

  • Can you work together to plan the same weeks off?

  • Are both families comfortable paying the nanny wages while they’re on vacation?

  • What holidays do you need coverage for vs. what you both have off?


Sick Policy

  • Do you want to use daycare rules in which a sick child should not be dropped off?

  • Or, are you comfortable living under the assumption that both children have been exposed to the same virus?

  • Is your nanny comfortable taking care of sick kids?

  • How sick is too sick for your nanny to work?

  • If your nanny takes a sick day, how will both families cover it?

Communication

  • How do you want to check in with each other?

  • How often?

  • How would you like to manage difficult situations, whether it’s frustrations with each other, or the nanny?

  • When communicating with the nanny will there be one point person?

  • Weekly/bi-weekly meetings?

  • Group text?


Food and Supplies

  • How will you break up the cost of food, gear to make the nanny’s life easier and supplies like diapers?

Extra Curricular Activities and Memberships

  • How will you share the cost of activities such as museum memberships?

  • What will you do if one family wants to pay for the nanny and child to take a class, but the other doesn’t?


Educational Resources

  • How would you like your nanny to be teaching the children?

  • In what way, and how many hours a day?


Off-limit Places

  • Are there any places you don’t want her to go?

  • Can she drive distances?

Discipline

  • How would you like the nanny to discipline bad behavior?

  • What types of behavior deserves a timeout?


Technology

  • What are your rules for the children watching TV?

  • What are the rules for your nanny watching TV or texting?

  • Can she post anything about your children on social media?


Playdates

  • Can your nanny host other nannies and families over at your house?

Pet Peeves

  • Do you have any nanny pet peeves you want her to avoid (i.e. going to the mall, talking on the phone while pushing the stroller)?