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Nanny Share Tips for Before and After Hiring a Nanny

A Nanny Share can be complex to navigate if you've never done it. Here are some tips to consider throughout your search and hiring process.

Before You Hire

  • Try finding a family first. If you don’t have another family to share a nanny with, start there. It’s generally easier to have two families looking for one nanny together than trying to find a family that loves your nanny as much as you do, though it is of course possible to find a nanny first. (More on finding a family to share a nanny with here.

  • Determine budget beforehand. Decide the gross hourly rate you can afford to pay before starting your search.

  • Pay 2/3rds of full rate. When determining your Nanny Share budget, take the going hourly rate (usually between $15-25/hour) and have both families pay 2/3rds. Don't make the mistake of just paying half the going rate. This isn't fair to your nanny.

  • Factor in taxes & tax breaks. You may be eligible for some tax breaks. Nanny Lane can help you discover the nanny tax breaks you’ll receive.

  • Take notes. Document what your family values are, and what type of family you’d want to share a nanny with. Make a list of the qualities that are most important to you in their parenting styles and communications.

  • Think of hours. Figure out your weekly schedule ahead of time so you can look for a Nanny Share family who has a similar schedule (ideally).

  • Do your homework. Learn about nanny trends near you, meet with some other families who have hired nannies near you, or post on a message board for people to share tips on nanny pay and benefits. For example, it'd be good to know whether other families are offering benefits like covering commuting costs or gym memberships.

  • Determine your host preferences. Consider whether you would want to host 100% or 50% of the time, or whether it even matters to you.

  • Consider legal implications. Make sure you’re above-board with paying overtime and are not considering your nanny an independent contractor.

  • Interview thoroughly. Ask each potential share-family these interview questions.

  • Choose a family you enjoy. You need to feel like you can be a solid team with the other family. It's also important both you and your kids get along with their little ones. You also want a family who desires the same traits in a nanny as you do.

  • Write your job description together. If you find a family first, write the job description together, ensuring you're aligned on the most important terms.

  • Look for Nanny Share nannies. Not all nannies are up for taking a job with two bosses. Truth be told, Nanny Lane is the best source for finding nannies who are excited about the Nanny Share experience.

  • Interview candidates together. If you find a family before a nanny, interview together (without your kids if you can), preferably in a public place. Here are some nanny interview questions.

  • Run a background check. It can cover everything from driving record to criminal past, and will bring you peace of mind.

  • Call references. Ask as much as you can about their experience with your candidate and how well they know her. Would they hire her again? Here are some questions to ask her references.

  • Check your nanny’s online profile. Look at Facebook, Google, Instagram, and Twitter using variations of her name.

  • Create a nanny contract. This will help you start your upcoming household employer experience off on the right foot, and make your nanny’s hours, benefits, and paid time off crystal clear.


After You Find Your Perfect Nanny for a Nanny Share

  • Send her a job offer. Fortunately, Nanny Lane has this built into the system for you. Don't forget to add a loving touch to the experience with a "Welcome to the family!" call. You'll also want to attach the nanny contract and be open to her questions and suggested revisions.

  • Time-cap the offer. 2-3 business days should be enough time for her to consider the job and send back the signed contract.

  • Find a nanny payroll service. May we suggest our own? There is a lot of paperwork to manage, and Nanny Lane is built to handle all of this for you. Nanny Lane will know what paperwork she needs, collect it from her, and get all of the legal requirements settled before she starts.

  • Have a walk through. Plan for her to shadow you for a day. Take her to your favorite parks, and have her help with meal prep and bedtime routines. This is a good chance to walk her through both of your homes, if both families will be hosts. Be sure to pay her for the walk through!

  • Supply the supplies. Ask your nanny what she needs you to get for the Nanny Share to be successful. A special baby carrier? An extra high chair? Have her pick out what she’d like, then determine how you and the share-family will split these expenses.

  • Make her first day a short one. Try to come home early on her first full day with the kids. You’ll want to learn all the details of how it went and go over questions she might have.

  • Set up regular check-ins. Make sure you and the host family have a bi-weekly or monthly check-in (over coffee and bagels some Saturday?), and then plan a 3-month and 6-month meeting with both families and your nanny (with no kids if you can swing it). This is a good chance for you all to make sure you’re feeling supported.

  • Create open lines of communication. Make sure you and your share-family have a great way to communicate and can go to each other easily and honestly. Build that same vibe with your new nanny as well.