Nanny Share Tips for Before and After Hiring a Nanny

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A Nanny Share can be complex to navigate if you've never done it. Here are some tips to consider throughout your search and hiring process.

Before You Hire

Try finding a family first

If you don’t have another family to share a nanny with, start here. It’s generally easier to have two families looking for one nanny together rather than trying to find a family that loves your nanny as much as you do, though it is, of course, possible to find a nanny first. The best part about having a family first is that you already have a community of trust. But this can still be established with the right family if you have a nanny first.

Determine budget beforehand

Deciding on the gross hourly rate you can afford to pay before starting your search is crucial. It’s important that both families are on the same page when it comes to how much they’ll be paying the nanny.

Pay 2/3rds of full rate

When determining your Nanny Share budget, take the going hourly rate (usually between $15-25/hour) and have both families pay 2/3rds. Don't make the mistake of just paying half the going rate. This isn't fair to your nanny and will increase the risk of Nanny turnover if they feel adequately compensated. Caring for children is tough work, and it’ll make the nanny feel more valued if she knows she’s getting a fair compensation for her time and workload.

Factor in taxes & tax breaks

You may be eligible for some tax breaks. Nanny Lane can help you discover the nanny tax breaks you’re eligible for and assist you in finding a family, a nanny or both!

Take notes and Ask Questions

Document what your family values are, and what type of family you’d want to share a nanny with. Make a list of the qualities that are most important to you in their parenting styles and communications to ensure you’re asking the right questions when interviewing both a nanny or a family.

Do your homework

Learn about nanny trends near you, meet with some other families who have hired nannies near you, or post on a message board for people to share tips on nanny pay and benefits. For example, it'd be good to know whether other families are offering benefits like covering commuting costs or gym memberships. It’s also important to figure out your weekly schedule ahead of time so you can look for a Nanny Share family who has a similar schedule (ideally).

Determine your host preferences

Consider whether you would want to host 100% or 50% of the time, or whether it even matters to you. It’s important to discuss this with the family you interview, to ensure you’re on the same page and have clear lines of communications.

Interview Thoroughly

Ask each potential share-family these interview questions to ensure you’re not leaving anything unanswered that can potentially cause later conflict.

Look for nanny share nannies

Not all nannies are up for taking a job with two bosses. This can be a big ask for some nannies, especially if they don’t have a lot of nanny share experience in the past. Nanny Lane is the best source for finding nannies who are excited about a nanny share experience. Here are some specific questions to ask a nanny when hiring for a nanny share.

Interview Candidates Together

If you have a family or a nanny and are interviewing for the other, both parties should interview the new family. The same goes if two families are in search of a nanny. It’s important for all parties to meet and be comfortable with one another. This is preferably done in a public place, like a cafe.

Run a Background Check

A background check is to make sure your gut instinct isn’t off. It’s important to feel safe and comfortable with the nanny you leave your children in. Running a background check is a standard process for many of the Nanny Lane Families. Nanny Lane offers a background check service that will bring you peace of mind.

Create a nanny contract

This agreement will help you start your upcoming household employer experience off on the right foot, and make your nanny’s hours, benefits, and paid time off crystal clear. The best way to avoid any confrontation or hostility is to ensure all questions are answered and the expectations are clearly agreed upon. Nanny Lane provides easy-to-make nanny contracts customized to your needs.

After You Find Your Perfect Nanny for a Nanny Share

Send them a job offer

Fortunately, Nanny Lane has resources on job offers for you. Don't forget to add a loving touch to the experience with a "Welcome to the family!" call. You'll also want to attach the nanny contract and be open to their questions and suggested revisions. This offer should come with a time-cap to respond. This way it ensures if the nanny declines the offer, you have ample time to find a new nanny (or vice versa).

Find a nanny payroll service

There is a lot of paperwork to manage when hiring an in-home employee, and Nanny Lane Payroll is built to handle all of this for you. Nanny Lane will know what paperwork needs to be filled out, they will collect it from both parties, and get all of the legal requirements settled before your nanny starts.

Have a walk through

Plan for your new nanny to shadow you for a day. Take them to your favorite parks, and have them help with meal prep and bedtime routines. This is a good chance to walk your new nanny through both of your homes if both families will be hosts. But please be sure to pay her for the walkthrough!

Get the Right Supplies

Ask your nanny what they need you to get for the Nanny Share to be successful. A special baby carrier? An extra high chair? It may be that the other needs to provide a second high-chair if they don’t plan on hosting. If both families will be hosting, ensure the nanny has what they need at both homes to make it work.

Set up regular check-ins

Make sure you and the host family have a bi-weekly or monthly check-in (over coffee and bagels some Saturday?), and then plan a 3-month and 6-month meeting with both families and your nanny (with no kids if you can swing it). This is a good chance for you all to make sure you’re feeling supported and on the same track with everything. This way you can air out grievances and ensure everyone is aligned with what’s best for the kids.

Overall there is a lot to consider when hiring a nanny for a share, or partnering with a family/nanny due. You need to make sure communication is transparent and effective. Remember, a nanny is a household employee and needs to be coached to their style, not yours.

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